“Yeah, I'm in my bag, but I'm in his too,
And that's why every time you see me, I got some new shoes.” - Megan Thee Stallion
This is the season of HOT GIRL summer, which I love to translate as GIRL POWER! We prove time and time again that we don’t need anyone else to define our happiness! Happiness comes from within and if you haven’t already started, it’s time to go and live your best life!
Hot Girl Summer is a lifestyle! I’ve got the top five things to help you have the best summer of your life and find your inner happiness.
1. Go alone, take yourself out on a date!
Spend a little one on one time with yourself and start to get comfortable with your inner thoughts. Turn off your phone, because if you wanted to be on Instagram all night you could have just stayed at home! This is a great time to reflect on your life, career goals, and relationships. Now, this is a new one for me but as I continue to grow as a person I find alone time to be necessary with all the craziness life brings. This is the time to relax from work, take a break from social media and your cell phone. I have not treated myself on a date but, this is definitely on my list of things to do this summer. As Beyonce would say, “Me, Myself and I is all I got in the end, that’s what I found out,”. But why stop at just taking yourself on a date? Go on a vacation, a little day trip or spend a weekend alone. Read a book, plan out a future project, relax, or even enjoy nature. On these mini-adventures by yourself, you are forced to step out of your comfort zone and try things you wouldn’t normally do with friends. This is your chance to learn more about yourself and what you want out of life. It might seem a little scary at first, but I have faith in that you will have some of the best times of your life!
2. Self Care - Spend That Bag on Yourself
Every girl likes to be pampered, I know I do! Treat yourself to a nice massage or facial every now and then. Not only will it help maintain that gorgeous face of yours, but it will relax your mind and body. Plus, you don’t have to go to a fancy place for this pampering session, you can do it right at home! Run a hot bath, turn the lights off and light candles instead. Really set the mood for yourself to relax, don’t be afraid to do the things you wish a man would do for you. If you like rose petals grab some at the grocery store and put them in your bath water, play your favorite feel-good music and close your eyes. Use this time as your “Me Time” whatever makes you feel loved and confident is exactly what you need to do. Another self-care tip is giving yourself a facial by making a face mask, or buying one at the store. Take your time and enjoy all your favorite face products, maybe even try a new one. I know life is so hectic that it can be hard to find time for yourself, but at least once a month, take that time to relax and treat yourself to a little pick me up! Don’t forget to Eat right!
3. Girl Time - Leave That Man at Home
I love hanging out with my girls! My favorite thing to do is to go to brunch because it is the perfect time to see my girls and catch up! When you are having a rough time in life or at work, there is nothing that a little girl time can’t fix. In LA there are plenty of places to eat and drink for hours while you gossip about the 3 dates you went on this week or that new business deal you just closed!
Although brunch is fun, I would much rather be on vacation with my girls. A quick little trip to Cabo is always a good trip because it’s close by, but you still feel the vibe of being on vacation. You get the chance to hang out on the beach, hear the ocean waves, and enjoy the water activities.
New York is another spot that is great for a girls’ weekend. Not only is the food great, but shopping is even better! New York is one of the fashion capitals so everyone gets dressed up for everything, there is no sweatpants and sweatshirts, like in LA. You better come ready to dress to impress! It sounds like the perfect girls weekend if you ask me.
Miami could be another spot on the list. Time to get out your tiny weeny yellow polka dot bikini, as it is great during the summer. Of course, you’ll have to take a stroll on the famous South Beach and Calle Ocho. This is a great place to experience culture and fun!
Now, if you are really in your bag you can take a trip to Europe, Asia, or Africa. Any vacation is expensive, but what really makes these destinations so expensive, especially from LA, is the airfare, once you get there everything is relatively reasonable. All this talk about vacations makes me want to plan my next adventure with my girls!
4. Secure the Bag - Enough said!
Now, every woman should have their own money and be I-N-D-E-P-E-N-D-E-N-T! Let’s be honest, there is nothing sexier than a woman who has her own money! While you are working your 9 to 5, find yourself a side job that is paying you good money that you can use to invest with or save to buy a property. There is so much money to go around for all of us to be wealthy and be able to look good and eat good. The times of having one job and living comfortably are over, as it is almost a survival necessity to have two jobs, but if that’s the sacrifice now to be able to live comfortably later in life, 9 times out of 10 it’s worth it! We have to make smart long term choices now so when we are 50 and 60 we are set up. Everything in society is changing, the way taxes are being split, how the government spends our money, there are grandparents right now that don’t have social security or have gotten it cut in half. We have to be aware of that and get to this money to secure the bag before it’s too late.
5. Just Have Fun !
We live in LA and one of the many advantages is that there is always something going on, from street and music festivals, concerts, open mics, comedy shows, and beauty conventions. Anything you want, LA has it! In some cases, some of these events and concerts are free so whether you are going alone or with some friends you are bound to have a good time. Go out and live your best life!
Remember, to be a true HOT GIRL means to have confidence, independence, and to be a woman who loves others the same way she loves herself! She is true to herself and continues to grow and learn more about herself as she travels through life. And, most importantly, she doesn’t apologize for living her life the way she wants to! Now that is a true HOT GIRL.
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